Has anyone ever told you to “pay attention?” We’re guessing yes. But has anyone ever told you HOW to do that? That’s what mindfulness is all about. Mindfulness means paying attention on purpose with curiosity and kindness. If your friend got a new puppy, and invited you over to meet the puppy, you might watch the new puppy very closely, enjoying the cute things they did and watching carefully to make sure they didn’t hurt themselves. You’d really be paying attention. Mindfulness is kind of like that.
Mindfulness is a way of paying attention to the present moment (what’s happening right now) on purpose with curiosity and kindness, and without judgment (not forming an opinion). This way of paying attention involves tuning in to our thoughts, feelings, body sensations (what we feel in our bodies like buzzing, tingling, cold, hot, etc.), and surrounding environment, with acceptance of what is and without judgment. We call it “mindfulness” but you can see it’s really “heartfulness” or “bodyfulness” too, since we are paying attention to our bodies, hearts, minds, and surroundings. When you practice mindfulness, you tune in to what you are sensing right in the current moment rather than thinking about the past or imagining the future.
Being Present
Mindfulness is being present to the here and now. Practicing mindfulness gives you awareness (information) of yourself, those around you, and the world. And this new sense of awareness can be an incredible tool to help you build the life you want.
Mindfulness can help you:
Have the power to choose where you place your attention
Know more about yourself and others
Enjoy the things that you like
Move away from things that you don’t want to be doing anymore
Feel more connected to the world around you
Notice your thoughts and know they are just thoughts
Be kinder to yourself and everyone around you
The Power Inside You
Everyone has the power to practice mindfulness. You probably practice it sometimes already without even knowing you’re doing it! There are so many ways to bring mindfulness into your life. And as you learn how to practice it on purpose, you will develop skills that can help you live a happier and healthier life. A life that aligns with who you want to be in the world. Mindfulness is a powerful tool that is always available to you and can help you find your inner calm when your life feels stormy or out of control: whether that be from stress, anxiety, or negative thoughts, feelings, or experiences. It can also help you feel happier, have better attention and focus, and perform better in school, sports, and music. The more you practice mindfulness, this way of paying attention on purpose, the more noticeable and long-lasting these positive effects will be.
As you learn how to practice mindfulness, you will begin to develop and strengthen this sense of awareness, noticing what may be pleasant or unpleasant in your body or mind, and use this information to make new decisions that are more in line with what feels good or are more fulfilling to you.
A good example of this would be if someone has been practicing mindfulness a few times a week, noticing how their body was feeling as they breathed quietly for one minute each day, for the past few weeks. Usually they love YouTube videos, but noticed one day that after a YouTube binge of a few hours, their eyes and shoulders hurt, and their stomach felt weird. Noticing that this felt unpleasant, they decided to limit their YouTube binges to an hour. That is using mindfulness about your body to make new choices that feel better to you and improve your life. Small changes can really make a big difference.
Choosing How To React
Mindfulness also teaches you how to respond instead of just reacting automatically to situations or people (otherwise known as a ‘stimulus,’ which is something that stirs up activity in you). Think of your sibling who is annoying you or your internet not working — those are two examples of a stimulus that will cause you to respond. When you are in a tense or stressful situation, such as these two examples, you can use a simple mindfulness practice to help you navigate the negative emotion or experience more effectively. A brief pause, with a mindful breath, can allow you to quickly check in with your heart, body, and mind, then determine your feelings/emotions/thoughts around the situation, and then respond with more clarity, calm, and intention (purpose).
As Viktor Frankl so eloquently said, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Mindfulness teaches us to use our awareness to recognize that space between any stimulus and our responses in our life so that we can respond wisely with intention more often instead of reacting blindly in a way we may later regret. Once you know how to practice mindfulness, it can become a way of being that you can tap into whenever you want or need.
Are you ready to give it a try?
Stop reading this and notice: are you breathing in or out? Are there loud noises around you? How many sounds can you hear? Are your feet cold, warm, or just right? Paying attention and noticing these things, without judging whatever we notice, is part of mindfulness.
Where do mindfulness practices come from?
Anyone can be mindful — it’s a natural way of being that is in all of us. You’ve been mindful plenty of times in your life before exploring this hub! When it comes to using specific practices to be mindful on purpose, it’s important to know that people have been practicing mindfulness for thousands of years through several different ancient Asian religious and spiritual philosophies, including Buddhism and Hinduism. Eventually these people brought their practices of mindfulness to every continent, including North America. In the last fifty years, more and more people have started practicing secular (non-religious) mindfulness in order to reduce their stress and improve their lives, and scientists have started studying its benefits. What you are reading about mindfulness in BLOOM today is the culmination of thousands of years of religious, philosophical, and now, scientific study.
As you’ve grown, you have likely spent a lot of time developing your knowledge and intelligence in school and strengthening your body with physical activity. Yet, more likely than not, you probably haven’t spent much time being taught how to train your mind, which is one of the most valuable skills you can have. When you take the time to practice mindfulness, you are actively training your mind and changing your brain in a positive way. You are making it stronger and more resilient (flexible), which can lead to all sorts of positive mental, emotional, physical, and social effects. These positive effects of practicing mindfulness can include increasing your ability to focus, helping you better recognize, understand, and regulate your emotions, and being a more empathetic or caring friend and family member.
Practicing mindfulness points out the beauty and gift that can be found in the present moment — all around you, all the time. When you practice mindful seeing, for instance, and take in your surroundings, such as the clouds moving across the sky, the wind in your face, or leaves falling from the trees, you begin to observe and notice all the wonderful finer details of life that you may not have seen before. This way of being is always available to you. It is a choice you can make about where to place your attention any moment you want. This is your true power.
When you practice mindfulness you experience the choice you always have over where and how your attention is directed.
The positive effects of mindfulness aren’t always instant. When you practice over and over, the benefits grow and grow, just like you improve at any skill the more you practice. More likely than not, practice may seem challenging, especially at the beginning, but all of a sudden you may start to notice feeling calmer throughout the day, less reactive to stressors, and maybe you even experience more feelings of gratitude than before. Speaking of which, maybe you’d like to try a mindfulness practice right now?
To read a teen’s personal story of how a mindfulness practice can positively impact your life, check out Tali’s story, here.
Mornings can have the power to set the tone for the rest of your day.
When you first wake up, before looking at your phone or getting caught up by any other distractions, take a moment of quiet reflection for yourself.
Your morning ritual could be as simple as sitting up in your bed, eyes closed, and spending a moment or two focused on your breathing. While breathing, you can practice a simple moment of gratitude and think of something you are grateful for or set an intention (aim or focus) for your day.
As you develop this morning ritual, you can deepen your practice by sitting for longer periods and allowing more silence before you begin your day. You can think of this practice as a way to set yourself up for success for the day by regulating your nervous system (your body’s functioning) in preparation for the day ahead.
#2 Mindful Breathing
Written by Violaine Guéritault, Ph.D.
Remember You Are Always Breathing!
One of the easiest and most direct ways to bring your attention to the present moment is by bringing your attention to your breath. Your breath is always happening in the present moment whether you are thinking about it or not, and by bringing your attention to it, you are directly connecting yourself to the present moment as it is unfolding.
You can try this right now. As you take a few breaths, notice how you are breathing, if it is shallow or deep, and where in your body you feel it, whether it be in your chest, belly, or nose.
For a quick practice: Take three deep belly breaths in and out through your nose, focusing your attention on your inhale and exhale, noting where you feel the breath in your body. Repeat this three times and practice it as often as you need throughout the day. This practice can be especially useful in stressful circumstances.
#3 Mindful Listening
Written by Violaine Guéritault, Ph.D.
Practice Mindful/Active Listening
Many times, when someone is speaking to us, we are often caught up in our own mind thinking of what we are going to say next, without giving their words our full attention and consideration. Mindful listening is a way of listening without judgment, criticism, or interruption. Do this while at the same time as being aware of internal thoughts and reactions you may be experiencing that are actually getting in the way of people communicating with you effectively.
Next time you are in a conversation, try actively listening to the other person with your full attention and see what you notice. Is the conversation more enjoyable? Easier? Or something else? This type of mindful listening can lead to developing deeper and more authentic connections with others.
#4 Check in with Your Body
Written by Violaine Guéritault, Ph.D.
Tune into your Body
One of the most amazing aspects of your body is that it functions without you having to do anything — your heart beats, your lungs breathe, and your stomach processes and digests your food without you having to tell them to. Yet, your body also constantly sends you messages and feedback through different sensations that you might not always notice. It is an important tool for your health to make some time each day to tune into your body’s sensations and notice if you think it is trying to communicate something to you. Take a moment each day and check in with your body. What do you notice? Are there any pains or aches? Do you feel a sense of heaviness or lightness? Do you feel tight anywhere? By bringing your attention to your body, you are able to bring your attention to the present and also connect to the feedback and information your body is sending you so you can learn from your body.
The Practice
Set an alarm on your phone or watch for a specific time each day to check in with your body and do this practice. Take a deep breath and become fully aware of everything you feel through your senses (sight, sound, touch, taste, smell), including sensations in your body, the air on your skin, temperature of the room, sounds around you, etc. Notice, allow, and breathe through any discomfort that might come up from thoughts, feelings, or sensations you have.
Tips for strong emotions or sensations: When you do this practice, it is normal for strong emotions or physical sensations to be there. If the emotions or sensations feel overwhelming, just stop the practice and give yourself some kudos for trying it out! Many people have noticed that the more they practice, the more they are able to handle big emotions or sensations in their bodies.
If the emotions or sensations are not too overwhelming and you want to keep practicing, try this:
As you check in with your body and emotions, see if you can “feel” where the emotions live in your body. You might find that feelings of worry or anxiety cause discomfort in your chest and so on. Once you identify where that emotion lives in your body, you can bring your attention to it, and see if you can relax your body in that area. This can help release and soften the emotion or sensation you are feeling and maybe even its impact on you.
#5 Find Things to be Grateful For
Written by Violaine Guéritault, Ph.D.
Adopting an “attitude of gratitude” is a little practice that can have a big impact on your life! People who regularly practice gratitude make time in their day to notice and reflect on the people, places, and things they are thankful for. In doing so, studies suggest they experience more positive emotions, sleep better, have more compassion and kindness towards others, feel more alive, and even have stronger immune systems. This practice allows you to really savor and appreciate the goodness in your life.
It is best done daily for 5 minutes in the morning and 5 minutes before going to bed by reflecting in your favorite journal and writing down 3 things you are grateful for.
You can start by noting simple things that make your life better each day, for example, a friend or family member who helps you, a place like your home or school, or things like your favorite blanket, sweater, or pet.
This practice is also useful for moments when your life feels stormy or out of control, too. It is a powerful way to uplift your mind by focusing your attention in the present moment to what is positive in your life.
It is a way to gently bring the positive things to the forefront of your mind so that you are able to more easily come back into the present moment, rather than worrying about the future or thinking about difficulties in the past.
By focusing on the positive we become more available to create a more positive future and attract more of the things we do want in our life. Just remember, where your focus goes, energy flows!
#6 Mindful Movement / Walking
Written by Violaine Guéritault, Ph.D.
There are so many times throughout the day where the mind is distracted or on autopilot and you might wonder how you got from point A to point B without having to put much thought into it. By bringing mindful attention to your walking or movement, you can break free from this cycle, clearing your mind of any clutter, and restoring your sense of focus and attention to what is directly in front of you. The goal is simple and fun. Become consciously aware while moving.
As you walk or move, pay attention to the sensations of the body, and play with your movement. Imagine you are an alien who just landed on Earth and had to learn how to walk on our planet. How do your feet feel when they each hit the ground? How do the other muscles of your body feel as you balance? Notice if and how your arms swing as you walk. Is it easier or more difficult to move if you slow down? As you become aware of your body and surroundings, see if you can open up your senses with a sense of curiosity and joy to experience the sights, sounds, and smells that surround you.
#7 Tap into Your Flow State
Written by Violaine Guéritault, Ph.D.
It’s more likely than not that you have experienced a flow state at some point in your life. It is a state of mind and body where you are completely absorbed and intensely focused on your task at hand, unaffected by any distractions. In this state, time will feel like it has slowed down, your senses will be heightened, and your actions and awareness are in sync to respond with effortless momentum.
Tapping into a flow state is possible for everyone and can be achieved in a physical activity, creative pursuit, or even more mundane everyday tasks. Many people know this state as being “in the zone,” and it is an incredibly powerful state to be able to tap into.
Tapping into a flow state becomes easier the more you practice mindfulness meditation, because you are actively training your attention, focus, and concentration.
A flow state is essentially meditation in motion and is most easily accessible by doing something you love.
To create flow remember: you must be engaging in something you like or with an attitude of joy, the activity cannot be too easy or difficult, your mindset must be focused on the journey not the destination, process, or the end result.
#8 Observe Your Surroundings with Mindful Seeing
Written by Violaine Guéritault, Ph.D.
Mindful seeing is the practice of taking in your surroundings by observing and noticing the finer details of life all around you in the present moment, without needing to label or judge them in any way. This is best practiced outdoors where you can experience the natural world around you.
You might notice:
The clouds moving across the sky,
People or animals walking by,
The wind against your face,
Leaves falling from the trees, or
The beautiful flowers.
There are so many ways to practice mindful seeing. Look for the small details, the things you find beautiful, and the quiet things in life and the world around you. When you take in these details, notice how they make you feel inside. Another level of mindfulness, unlocked. This practice reveals the beauty and gift that can be found in the present moment — all around you, all the time. Practicing this way, through how you observe the world, shows you the choice you always have over where and how your attention is directed. This choice of where you place your attention is always yours.
#9 Try Mindful Eating
Written by Violaine Guéritault, Ph.D.
A really great and enjoyable way to bring your attention to the present moment is when you eat. Sometimes we aren’t paying attention to the food we eat because we’re distracted and busy doing other things at the same time — homework, talking or texting with friends, watching videos or TV, etc. This can often lead to mindless eating where you may eat way more than you meant to or so fast that you didn’t realize you were already full. When you take time to eat mindfully, you can bring yourself into the experience, truly appreciate your food, and engage all five of your senses.
Start with a small portion, look at your food, noticing the colors, aromas, and textures. Think about where your food came from, and all of the people, plants, and animals that helped make this food for you. Take a moment to practice gratitude in your mind and heart, saying “thank you” for all the work that it took to bring you this food.
Use your nose to smell the aromas your food has to offer.
As you chew slowly and thoroughly, feel the textures in your mouth, like soft, hard, chewy, warm, or cold.
Listen to the sounds the foods make as you chew the food and focus on the diverse flavors you taste.
The more you practice mindful eating, the more enjoyment and nourishment you will experience when eating.
#10 Find A Buddy!
Developing a mindfulness practice doesn’t always have to be something you do alone. Lots of times mindfulness is practiced in a community or group setting. Community support is key to developing and maintaining a practice. If you tend to be more social, or like the accountability, connection, and support that community or group members bring to the experience, find a buddy or group to practice with! There are some awesome apps and organizations that offer teen-centered mindfulness classes, retreats, and practices on their website and in-person.
