Exploring Emotions

Exploring Emotions

Emotions are as important as the air we breathe! Learning how to understand them helps us clearly communicate what we need, want, or dislike. Having emotional awareness helps us build healthy relationships & move through negative or hard feelings with less difficulty. Explore the purpose of our emotions, how they help us understand ourselves better, & navigate the world around us a bit easier.

3 Ways to Create Emotional Well-being!

#1 Recognize a range of feelings

Written by Scott Todnem

We often hear how important it is to regulate our emotions, but how do we do that? How can we experience normal human feelings but also stay balanced and not overwhelmed? Here are three quick tips to maintain emotional well-being.

Emotional well-being is not always about improving your mood – oftentimes emotional well-being is about maintaining a healthy balance of mood. To maintain our mood, we must first begin by realizing that, like it or not, we are going to experience many different feelings in life.

Each year, each month, and even each day will be full of a variety of feelings, and a combination of them at that. Miniature shifts in mood occur because of the time of day, environment setting, and everything going on with work or school or relationships. Plus, it’s never just one simple feeling filling our brain. What’s pretty obvious is that we aren’t just happy or sad, fearful or hopeful. We can be nervous but excited. We can be worried but grateful. We can even be exhausted and then re-energized within a matter of minutes.

Even though it’s natural to strive to be content and work to enjoy each passing moment, we don’t need to be happy all the time. Experiencing a full range of human emotions is beneficial for our livelihood. It’s what sets us apart as a progressed human species. In order to react and respond appropriately, it helps us to have feelings and acknowledge those feelings. This is known as an affect. Highs and lows are natural and expected, but it’s always about how we handle those life events and manage any feelings that come up as a result. Good news, bad news, fun situations, embarrassing moments, positive social interactions, and annoyance or arguments are all a part of being human.

Maintaining emotional well-being starts by realizing that this will all occur in any given year. Allow yourself to feel each intricate emotion, because this gives us valuable feedback into our current existence, and gives us insight into how to respond and carry on – whether through the sorrow and heartache, or with the aura of joy and exuberance.

Recognizing that a range of feelings will occur is empowering. It allows us to experience each complex combination of emotions without being critical of ourselves –without self-judgment.

Self-judgment compounds problems. So, without being angry for being angry, becoming more sad and frustrated for being sad or frustrated, allow the feelings to set in, recognize them, and then you can be ready to respond and move on to managing your emotional state.

 

#2 Reduce clutter

Written by Scott Todnem

Clutter, as a term, will serve as two-fold here: not just physical clutter, but mental clutter as well.

Maintaining your physical space can help to avoid minor emotional disturbances, like low mood and annoyance, all the way up to more life-altering mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety. This doesn’t mean you need to be a “neat freak” about your living space, have your bedroom perfectly organized, or everything orderly and untouched. We need to feel at home in our living area, whatever that looks like. Most apartments or houses have a “lived-in” feel that is comfortable – that’s what makes it homey.

Reducing clutter does mean ridding your life of trash, unnecessary paperwork, dirty dishes, old clothes, and other items you no longer need. A general rule of thumb is, if you haven’t worn or used it in a year, consider donating, recycling, or throwing it out. Ridding your space of clutter contributes to easing the feeling of being overwhelmed. The term mental clutter also refers to the build-up of thoughts and tasks that can weigh down the mind, keeping it from thinking clearly.

Mental clutter can also occur with too many items on your to-do list and limited time to complete them. We all know that horrible feeling… so much to do in so little time.

Get that to-do list down to size by prioritizing time. Decide if it’s best to knock out the items that take less time first, and then attack the larger thing you need to do, or if you’d feel better working through the difficult task to start while you have the energy. We all have different times of day where we do our best work. Sometimes common sense lets you figure this out, but there are also estimates based on your sleep tendencies. Some of us work best in the morning, some of us work best in the evening. Analytical/logical work, insightful work, and decision-making are all important but they may be more effective at different times of the day. Completing each week’s to-do list when we are in our most regulated, focused state, can put us in a sweet spot for productivity, which greatly reduces mental clutter. The book, “When,” by Daniel Pink, helps with some of this –check it out and use his work as a resource if needed.

Finally, manage your activity time, sleep time, and screen time to avoid mental burnout. These and other essential brain activities play an important role in emotional well-being.

#3 Get Involved

Written by Scott Todnem

Social connection has a humongous effect on mental health. Find a hobby. Rediscover an interest. Get together with your social group. Stay physically active. Create challenges for the brain. Involve yourself with the outer world for a great return on your inner world.

Often this is easier said than done.

How do I find a positive friend group? How do I figure out what hobbies I like to do? How do I apply myself in social settings if I’m not outgoing? How do I know that my time spent in various activities really helps? These are great questions. You can rest assured that you’re not the only one who may wonder how to apply all of this to real life. Just because you read or hear about emotional well-being doesn’t mean there will be follow-through – and often, the issue is that a speaker or writer won’t give any tips or skills to make it all happen!

There are a few ways to find your interests in life, including the development of social relationships, that can benefit your mind.

  1. Let your passion naturally emerge, and over time, nurture those hobbies and friendships by giving them more time and energy. Self-reflect at the start of each month to see what excites you going forward – is it the same activities you’ve been putting effort into in the last few months?
  2. Another way to find focus in life is to aim your energy and purposefully pour time into an activity for a few weeks to see how the outcome feels. Check back at the end of the week – was it worthwhile?
  3. Finally, you can sprinkle your free time and effort over a few different interests and social groups to see which ones seem the most rewarding. This comparison can be especially useful since it’s nice to base a decision in an either/or format. Kind of like shopping, this is a nice way to compare and contrast interests, but the opposite effect might be that you leave a person or activity behind, and you end up regretting it. Be careful not to dismiss a specific friend or activity for good, unless you are absolutely certain it will provide no emotional payoff in your future.

 

Tips for Developing Awareness

7 Tips for Developing Awareness

Written by Violaine Guéritault, Ph.D.

#1 – Practice Mindfulness

The starting point is undoubtedly the practice of Mindfulness. Mindfulness will help you develop a wide range of skills, including one of the greatest importance: awareness. Awareness is the key because it will allow you to become aware of your own emotions. And the moment you become aware of them you can learn to relate to them in a more positive and constructive manner.

#2 –Tune in to how you feel

Practice checking in with yourself and tuning in to how you feel in various situations throughout your day. Do you feel excited or hopeful about a new project, or do you feel sad and frustrated over a disagreement with a friend? Learn to tune in to the emotions you experience in your day. This will strengthen your ability to be aware of what goes on inside and outside of you.

#3 – Make noticing your emotions a habit

Once you’ve become aware of an emotion, try to make noticing it a regular habit. It’s important that you learn that it’s all about noticing and observing your emotions, not judging them.Mindfulness will help you practice being a mere observer, capable of withholding judgment and interpretations such as “this is good” or “this is bad.” Then practice naming that emotion. Finally, notice that each emotion passes and makes room for the next experience. This will teach you to go with the flow of things and to appreciate the inner peace that comes with this form of acceptance.

#4 – Share your feelings

Share your feelings with the people you trust and care most about and who are closest to you. This will help you learn to put your feelings into words. The ability to express your emotions verbally is a very important skill that will allow you to always find the support you need, when you need it the most.

#5 – Be a careful observer

Practice noticing emotions in others and how their emotions make you feel. This will train you to become a more careful observer and will develop your empathy which is a beautiful and very valuable skill.

#6 – Be kind to yourself

Be kind to yourself and take good care of yourself by finding an activity that helps you feel better in the moment: talk to a good friend you know will support you, go for a run or a walk in nature if possible, create something, lie down with your eyes closed and listen to soothing and calming music, or watch an uplifting movie. This list is not exhaustive. Find your own calming and appeasing activity that will remind you how important it is to be kind to yourself.

#7 – Breathe, relax, and most importantly, learn to meditate

If despite all your efforts, you get to a point when you feel totally overwhelmed by your emotions, then it is time for you to reach out for help. You can talk to a trusted adult, parent, or family member and ask them for support. You can also choose to talk to your guidance counselor, your school psychologist, a social worker or find a therapist who will listen to you, understand you, support you and help you through this difficult time. Never hesitate to ask for help. Always remember that reaching out for help is the greatest gift of self-compassion you can give yourself, a gift that you fully deserve.

Resources

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Psychology Today

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National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)

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