Cultivate Serenity

Written by Violaine Guéritault, Ph.D.

Serenity is a state of calm and peacefulness that reflects one’s inner peace. In that state, you know how to control your thoughts, you enjoy a sense of balance and harmony between your body and your mind, and between your positive and negative emotions. This very desirable state usually translates into a deep feeling of happiness, and a sense of plenitude and satisfaction. The practice of mindfulness is one of the most powerful and effective ways to reach that state. Close your eyes… take a deep breath… you’ve just taken your first step toward it.

We intuitively know that serenity is one important contributing factor to happiness. We all wish serenity was part of our life because it feels so good to feel truly calm and peaceful inside. Our intuition is right on target because studies show that serene people tend to enjoy life a lot more and are better equipped to cope with problems and challenges because they can remain calm and clear headed when dealing with them. Unfortunately, serenity will not just fall on your lap. It requires work and effort to achieve it but the rewards are so huge that it will make your efforts totally worth the effort.

Simple ways to cultivate it!
Find peace & serenity in mindfulness.

If you haven’t already, you should think about looking into the treasures the practice of mindfulness can offer you. Mindfulness will show you the way to a more serene life.

  • It will teach you how to become fully aware of the present moment and how to take a pause in the midst of the day’s turmoil, whenever you choose to.
  • It will teach you to get out of your head, calm your thoughts and make you feel at peace by getting your mind back on the right track whenever you feel it’s wandering off in the wrong direction.
  • It will teach you what is known as “mindful acceptance”. Don’t be misled by the term “acceptance”. It doesn’t mean you should accept the unacceptable, like being treated badly by others. It’s about learning that people are who they are while accepting you cannot control or change them. The only person you have control over is you. It’s your choice whether to spend time with those people or not, but you do accept you can’t change them. It’s essential that you understand that mindful acceptance has nothing to do with being a push over who has become resigned to accepting anything life throws at them. Quite the contrary. Mindful acceptance is understanding what you can and cannot change, and gives you the freedom to choose at any point in time how you’re going to respond to a situation. That choice is made from a place of wisdom and full awareness that will bring you a great deal of inner peace and serenity.
Let go of the clutter.

Let go of the clutter and make your environment clean and organized. Have you noticed how difficult it is to feel relaxed and peaceful in a place that is dirty and messy? It’s very unlikely that you will ever find serenity in the midst of chaos. A messy and cluttered home is a red flag and a sign of a disorganized and unstable mind. If you want serenity to become an integral part of your life, then start with you room and your home. Keep them neat, clean and pleasant to look at. What you want is enjoy being in your room because your surroundings are inviting, tidy and comfortable. You should always be able to feel at peace and relaxed in your home surroundings since that state of mind is indicative of how serene you feel inside.

Make good choices.

Invite serenity in your life by making good choices. The company you keep, the books you read, the TV shows and movies you watch, and of course social media, all play an important role in how you think and how you feel. Violence, whether physical or psychological, aggressiveness and negativity will affect you negatively, bring you down, make you feel anxious or even depressed. That is the exact opposite of feeling serene and peaceful. If you want serenity to be part of your life, then you’re going to have to rethink who and what you surround yourself with. Your mind will only find peace, quiet and serenity if you feed it those very same things. This means you may want to let go of the pessimistic and toxic people in your life, of violent and negative TV entertainment and books, and most definitely of some of the social media that’s out there and that can be mean, cruel, spiteful, degrading and even sometimes plain hateful. Be aware, and choose not to spend your free time feeding your mind with garbage just because it’s popular and that everybody else does it. Ponder on this for a while, and then choose wisely.