Written by Violaine Guéritault, Ph.D.

What is it?

Frustration is a common emotion that you surely encounter on a regular basis. It usually shows up in situations when you feel blocked from reaching a desired outcome. When you reach your goals, you feel pleased and excited, but when you are prevented from reaching them you tend to give in to frustration. You may feel irritable and sometimes even annoyed and angry. As experience may have taught you, the more important the goal, the greater the frustration.

What is it telling you?

Frustration is telling you that the efforts and actions you’re applying to a situation are not producing the results you think they should. Simply put, you are not getting what you want, and that’s very frustrating, indeed.

How to manage it?
  • Practice mindfulness and meditation. These practices will teach you the following effective ways to manage your frustration:
  • Step back and distance yourself from events.
  • Feel the frustration, process it and let it go.
  • Take some deep breaths, become calmer, and then take action.
  • Assess if you need to accept a situation or if you can change it.
  • You can learn to expand your frustration tolerance by participating in new activities that provide a “just right challenge”