Cultivate Confidence

Written by Violaine Guéritault, Ph.D.

Success in life and reaching goals depends heavily on decisions we make in real time. A single one of your decisions could change the course of your life, and self-confidence plays an important role in making that decision. Self-confidence frees you not only of self-limiting and negative thoughts, but also of fear and anxiety. It fosters mental strength and provides you with the energy and motivation you need to take action to reach your goals. Most importantly, it gives you the courage and the determination to be your authentic self, and that’s priceless.

We all have times when we feel more confident than others. Self-confidence plays a central role in our lives when it comes to being successful in life and reaching our goals. Cultivating and developing our self-confidence should be a priority for all of us because so much ensues from it.

Simple Ways to Cultivate it!
Surround yourself with positive people

What kind of company do you keep? How do your friends make you feel? Are they kind to you? Are they supportive of who you are and what you do? Do you feel empowered by their presence or, on the contrary, do you feel they are judging you or put you down? Any sort of relationship that brings you down and makes you feel bad about yourself is toxic in nature and will destroy your self-confidence instead of building it up. The people who surround you can influence your attitudes, your thoughts and the way you view and feel about yourself. This is why it’s so important to seek out the company of people who love you, care about you, respect you and bring out the best in you. Don’t ever settle for less.

Face your fears.

Sometimes, a lack of self-confidence can make you avoid certain situations that scare you such as applying for a job or asking someone on a date. You may be in avoidance because you are afraid to make a fool of yourself or to mess things up. When this happens, remember that you always have the choice of how you perceive and approach the situation. You can indeed decide to see what’s going on as an opportunity to challenge what you believe to be your own limits. This will give you a chance to overcome your self-doubts and hesitations. It will boost your self-confidence and you will find yourself more willing to take on new challenges in order to reach your goals and dreams.

Be good to your body.

In order for you to feel good about yourself, you must learn to take care not only of your mind but also of your body. The mind-body connection is a very powerful feedback loop, therefore by taking care of your body you are also taking care of your mind and vice versa. Practicing self-care will naturally make you feel more confident. Here are a few ways for you to take care of your body that are conducive to increasing your self-confidence.

  • Exercise!
    A large body of research shows that physical activity is highly correlated to increased levels of confidence. Not only it will improve your health overall, but it will also improve your body image, and a more positive body image will, in turn, boost your self-confidence.
  • Eat healthy!
    When you provide your body with healthy foods, you feel stronger, healthier and more energized. As a result, you feel good about yourself and a lot more confident.
  • Get more ZZZs!
    You’ve probably experienced before what sleep deprivation feels like and the effects it can have on you. It can make you feel anxious, stressed out, short tempered, impatient, negative in your thinking and even sometimes plain depressed. On the other hand, there’s plenty of research that shows that getting sufficient and good quality sleep will make you feel rested, relaxed, clear headed, optimistic and in a good mood which are all linked to improved levels of confidence.