Anxiety & Self-Esteem

Written by Dr. RJ

  |  Reviewed by Jen Bell

While most people experience temporary feelings of guilt when they make a mistake, they often bounce back. If you suffer from poor self-esteem, how you feel in a certain situation may influence how you feel about yourself in general. Every mistake you make may send you sliding into despair.

People with healthy self-esteem are able to properly assess their strengths and shortcomings while still believing that they are valuable individuals. People who suffer from social anxiety disorder or SAD, often have negative beliefs about themselves, for example: “I am not able to control my anxiety around others” and/or “I don’t have the ability to deal with social or school situations.” These beliefs are sometimes based on a poor sense of self-worth, and they can contribute to higher levels of anxiety.

If you suffer from a social anxiety disorder, you are likely to have high standards for yourself and find it difficult to set achievable goals. You might feel like you need everyone to like you, and that you must never say or do anything wrong. When you find yourself in a difficult situation with friends or school work, you are more likely to focus on your nervousness, to have a negative view of yourself, and to exaggerate the negative effects of making a mistake.

Remember, there are many ways to counter the external challenges you will face in your journey to develop a healthy body image and self-esteem. Since Day 1, you’ve had everything you need within yourself – don’t let the world convince you that you do not. Know that YOU are inherently worthy and have the power to love yourself in the way you desire by making small choices and commitments to yourself everyday. Remind yourself of this truth daily. With practice it will get easier and you will likely start to notice a difference in the way you feel.