We often hear how important it is to regulate our emotions, but how do we do that? How can we experience normal human feelings but also stay balanced and not overwhelmed? Here are three quick tips to maintain emotional well-being.
Emotional well-being is not always about improving your mood – oftentimes emotional well-being is about maintaining a healthy balance of mood. To maintain our mood, we must first begin by realizing that, like it or not, we are going to experience many different feelings in life.
Each year, each month, and even each day will be full of a variety of feelings, and a combination of them at that. Miniature shifts in mood occur because of the time of day, environment setting, and everything going on with work or school or relationships. Plus, it’s never just one simple feeling filling our brain. What’s pretty obvious is that we aren’t just happy or sad, fearful or hopeful. We can be nervous but excited. We can be worried but grateful. We can even be exhausted and then re-energized within a matter of minutes.
Even though it’s natural to strive to be content and work to enjoy each passing moment, we don’t need to be happy all the time. Experiencing a full range of human emotions is beneficial for our livelihood. It’s what sets us apart as a progressed human species. In order to react and respond appropriately, it helps us to have feelings and acknowledge those feelings. This is known as an affect. Highs and lows are natural and expected, but it’s always about how we handle those life events and manage any feelings that come up as a result. Good news, bad news, fun situations, embarrassing moments, positive social interactions, and annoyance or arguments are all a part of being human.
Maintaining emotional well-being starts by realizing that this will all occur in any given year. Allow yourself to feel each intricate emotion, because this gives us valuable feedback into our current existence, and gives us insight into how to respond and carry on – whether through the sorrow and heartache, or with the aura of joy and exuberance.
Recognizing that a range of feelings will occur is empowering. It allows us to experience each complex combination of emotions without being critical of ourselves –without self-judgment.
Self-judgment compounds problems. So, without being angry for being angry, becoming more sad and frustrated for being sad or frustrated, allow the feelings to set in, recognize them, and then you can be ready to respond and move on to managing your emotional state.