Talking with anyone about a personal topic, like puberty, may at first be challenging. To feel more at ease, practice what to say beforehand. To practice, you can:

  • Write down what you want to say to the person. You can include questions or overall comments. Then check to make sure your statements are written in a friendly and kind manner.
  • Practice out loud what you want to say in the shower, on a walk, or any other time you are alone for a few moments. As you practice, try to phrase your statements in a positive and kind way. For example, instead of saying “You don’t talk to me about puberty,” practice saying “I would like to talk about puberty because I have some questions. Can we talk?”

After this practice, then go to the person when they are not distracted by something else and start talking. Sometimes talking during car, bus, or train rides can also help.